| Concentration was my first step; I had to take control | | | | embraced it, rather than fighting it off, I could reach my |
| of my thoughts. I didn't know what to think but, I'm | | | | goals a little faster and easier. |
| certain I want my ex back. After the break up my | | | | Affirmation was step five. I had to affirm to myself |
| mind was going ninety miles an hour. It felt like I was | | | | that my reasons to get my ex back were not going to |
| just dropped out of a tornado. It was a little disorienting | | | | be self serving. Knowing that I may only get one |
| to say the least, especially since I was the one that got | | | | chance to make this work out and if my ex senses it's |
| dumped. | | | | all about me it could be over for good. |
| Knowing this could take some time to get over the | | | | We already had some what of a history since we had |
| hurt and rejection of the split but, all my tears won't | | | | been together for over a year. We just didn't see eye |
| change a thing. So, once I got over the initial shock and | | | | to eye on everything. I knew we didn't just break up to |
| calmed down, it was time to concentrate on the task | | | | make up but, that was my goal. I wasn't going to let |
| at hand because, I'm certain I want my ex back. | | | | the former stop the latter because, I was certain I |
| Evaluation was step two. Now that I had some extra | | | | wanted my ex back. |
| alone time on my hands I could concentrate and | | | | I don't know if you've ever been through this yourself |
| evaluate the situation. What drew us together in the | | | | but, having been with someone for awhile and after |
| first place? What changed to cause the break up? | | | | breaking up there is still a bit of an advantage. We |
| What could have been done differently? | | | | know them better than anyone else and we can |
| Would I be willing to take on some of the responsibility | | | | make them feel admired, desired, and down right |
| for the damage done to the relationship by my actions | | | | special. |
| or inactions? What makes me so certain that I want | | | | Indication was the sixth step. Now this can be a little |
| my ex back? After all this would be a good | | | | tricky and requires a bit of finesse. After I did the first |
| opportunity to move on to a new relationship. | | | | five steps the initial contact was more of an indication |
| Revelation was step three. I asked myself all these | | | | and not an out right invitation. Remembering the whole |
| questions and more to get down to the core of the | | | | time I'm certain I want my ex back and not rushing it. |
| problem. And decided that I was willing to do whatever | | | | It's sort of like a bass bait effect. Everybody wants |
| it takes to put this relationship back together. | | | | what they can't have. You know something that is just |
| After doing a little back tracking I figured out where the | | | | out of their reach. When they feel they have to work |
| road teed and how we started traveling in different | | | | for it, it will mean more to them. |
| directions. I realized the course corrections that need to | | | | Just because I'm certain I want my ex back really |
| be made and my compass was reset in a new | | | | doesn't mean a thing unless my ex is willing to claim |
| direction. | | | | ownership of the idea. So, the first contact was more |
| Transformation was step four. What ever I was doing | | | | of a chitty chat stay in touch type conversation. |
| before the break up obviously wasn't working. So, | | | | Negotiation was step seven. I had to be flexible. I |
| some changes had to be made and since I couldn't | | | | actually learned this a long time ago but, some how let |
| change my ex, I would need to work on myself. | | | | it slip. I needed to compromise more in this relationship |
| Because, I was still certain I wanted to get my ex | | | | because, compromising was the key that could |
| back. | | | | determine whether I would get back together with my |
| I had to pick up a few books on relationships. Once I | | | | ex or not. |
| realized that change is just a part of life and when I | | | | |